If you’re like me – analytical, detailed, observant, and the like – then I’m sure you are your biggest critic, too.
I’m currently reading “Eat, Pray, Love.” Now, I highly recommend this book, especially since you’re reading my self growth and self love posts. Each chapter is an eye-opening lesson told from her personal experiences. This lesson I’m about to share with you is by far is my favorite lesson, although I’m only halfway through the book. But before I tell you her words of wisdom, here’s some background information:
- Elizabeth is currently at an ashram in India. Every person at the ashram does volunteer work for their stay there; she cleans the temple floors.
- She’s a social butterfly, and finds that her social calendar is interfering with her becoming closer to God. So she takes an oath of silence.
- That exact day that she decides to take an oath of silence, she gets promoted from cleaning the temple floors to becoming a hostess/greeter for new attendees.
She thought it was a joke God was trying to play on her, but she knows God’s intentions are always well and purposeful. Then she remembers a saying that her Guru has stated multiple times,
“God dwells within you, as you.”
(SN: I don’t have a religious affiliation. God represents some higher power, whatever you wish to call your higher power. A lot of my friends and family believe in God, and so I will use God or higher power. I do believe in some higher power, I just don’t know what I call him/her.)
We are all intentionally made – even those qualities about us that annoy us or make us short of perfect. Elizabeth Gilbert suggests not changing your “flaws,” but honing your characteristics/skills to your advantage. So in “Eat, Pray, Love” she uses her ability to socialize for a greater purpose: to make new members of the ashram feel comfortable in their new temporary residence.
I also would like to think everything has pros and cons to it – or like a yin-yang, there’s a balance to everything. As much as we may be irritated with our “flaws,” it may serve another purpose. For example, let’s go back to what I said about being our own biggest critic. I’m constantly critiquing myself, however these critiques have allowed me to grow exponentially. I’m not the same person I was even a month ago. I’m constantly learning, I’m constantly trying to better myself, and I’m constantly adapting. Like Elizabeth Gilbert said, it’s a matter of honing your skills.
God wants you to love yourself in the image that he so purposefully created you to be. You are a piece of him. You represent him. God makes no mistakes, my dear. Everything serves a greater purpose. It’s time for you to start looking at that greater purpose.
Now for the second quote, that I love so much.
“People will hate you for the exact same reasons people love you.”
This struck a cord with me. I’m constantly criticizing myself. But this quote is absolutely right; how did this not reach me before?
I’d like to think I’m a pretty outgoing person. I can be a little over the top sometimes – obnoxious is how I like to describe it. I make a lot of friends this way, surprisingly. But I’m sure people may find me unpleasant in the same way I find some other outgoing people annoying and extra. Isn’t that funny? I dislike people for the same qualities I share with them. I dislike people for the same exact reasons other people adore them.
We’re not everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s alright. We cannot please the whole world while trying to maintain sanity and happiness.
Be yourself –
the right people will love you for all that you are plus more.